Making apartment repairs together is the best way to test feelings. True, it is contraindicated for couples at the stage of the honeymoon, and indeed in the first year of marriage together - in order to avoid early disappointments. And if you already know your faithful, how flaky, you can repair it and not kill each other. How? Now tell.
To begin with, we will have to confess: during family wars because of repairs, it is often we who are wrong (only tss). Do not believe? Read the choice of topics on the joint implementation of the repair on any women's forum. Every second complaint: "he ruined", "he could not", "he did not finish" ... Let's agree: the repair is a joint matter, and the responsibility for it is also yours, family. Otherwise, all our advice will not help, and the long and sad road to the registrar is waiting for you. Well, or to mom.
Plan each step
Before you turn up the rooms, flatten the tail of Barsik the cat with a falling wardrobe, finally throw away that eerie vase (his mom's gift) - sit at the negotiating table. Want - say, want - draw or view photos. From you - a clear action plan for each stage of repair. It is desirable, with the smallest details.
What will it give: will eliminate many of the differences at the very beginning. Well, it will give the opportunity to avoid the phrases: "Why did you put it here? I wanted there!", Or "You got me, you do not know yourself what you want!". Agree, very good benefits.
In a building materials store: split purchases
Let him buy all sorts of boring cements with plaster, rollers and brushes. Leave for yourself the most interesting thing: the choice of wallpaper, color of the laminate, the design of lamps ...
What will it give: You can give a cut on the head, that your views with your husband on the design of rooms do not match. He wants a cozy den, and you dream of spacious rooms in the spirit of modernity. But it is unlikely that he will be happy for two hours to revise the catalogs with wallpaper patterns (the only choice for him is the joint selection of your wardrobe). Therefore agree: you are a designer, he is a foreman. Most men will only be happy.
Separate responsibilities
Never do together what one person can handle. Apply the glue yourself on strips of wallpaper, and he let them stick them. Charge him with a rough finish of the walls, and already "make beautifully" the finishing is finished. And he at this time let fumbles in the bathroom with pipes, dropping the wrench on an expensive Italian tile.
What will it give: the fewer reasons for pushing foreheads, the calmer the repair will be. The main thing is for everyone to do what they can do. At least theoretically.
Treat everything with humor
He pokleil wallpaper in the nursery and solemnly invites you to look at the result. What do we do almost instantly? That's right, "turn on the criticism." Even if the wallpaper is pasted more or less normally, I definitely want to say: “It’s crooked here,” “The picture didn’t match here” or suicidal: “Tankin’s husband stuck the same much better.” Forbid yourself to do it, otherwise the demise of your second half's pride will be terrible: with shouts, throwing rollers into the solution and slamming the doors. Instead, either praise your husband (if everything is really normal) or with a smile, say something like: "You know, this inverted bear, buried in the back of a donkey, is very even nothing."
What will it give: and so it is clear - it is better to laugh it over the problem, and then decide everything together than find out who is the crooked one and who is the fool.
Invite workers and drive south
Find a good responsible team through friends, hand them sketches made by the designer - and for a month at sea (well, or to your mother at the cottage).
What will it give: sunbathe, drop a few kilograms, become the mistress of a modern shining apartment. And the reason for the scandals in this case will be perhaps one: why is he, I wonder, so looks at the blonde in a bikini?
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