And why do children often love grandmothers more than parents who have nurtured them? The answer is extremely simple: the older generation, having practiced pedagogical techniques on their own children, in their declining years become softer and more patient. They calmly, even a little from the outside, perceive children's whims and are ready to indulge them to please their long-awaited granddaughter. Grandmothers will always understand and regret, never scold and always cover from vigilant parents. You say that this is a stereotype? And you will be right. There are much more types of parents of parents. Let's look at some of them.
"Tyrant" - unconditional authority, categorically forcing him to do what he says, because “Tyrant” is always right and knows better. Most parents do not want to communicate with this type of older generation and therefore protect their children from them, because such an impact is difficult to withstand even adults, not to mention children. Tyranny fosters addiction and excessive obedience in the little one.
"Computer" - grandmother, constantly teaching and evaluating everything and everyone. It is very difficult to communicate with this type, especially for a small person who has not yet fully formed his own point of view. "Computer" presses, strains and does not teach grandchildren the most important thing - to be compromised and respect others.
"Martyr" - This is an avid altruist, for whom it is vital to serve others. Often this type of grandmothers likes to repeat: "Do not worry about me, the main thing is that you are fine." The "Martyrs" have appropriate behavior with their grandchildren, which leads to the child’s egoism and spoiledness, because everything is possible for him.
"Friend" - This is a granny who indulges in pranks and games, without accepting any responsibility. “I couldn’t do anything, this is your child”, “Friends” are often justified when parents accuse them of not looking at the baby who indulged in and “walked on his head”. Over time, this type of older generation get bored with the pranks of a child, but they cannot find an alternative to them.
"Too busy" - These are grandmothers who do not want or for various reasons cannot pay attention to their grandchildren. Maybe they like loneliness, they do not like small children, or they work a lot, or maybe they try to put the interests of their family in the first place, therefore they do not let their grandchildren into their lives. No need to judge this type of old people, because everyone has their own world view and their own life circumstances.
"Conductor" - this is perhaps the best type of the older generation for children. This is a sensible grandmother, who, because of her life experience, knows all the pitfalls, as a result of which she boldly leads her grandchildren along the road of life. However, at that moment, when she feels that the baby has already grown and can do something himself, goes off to the side and gives an opportunity to show themselves. Guides soberly and wisely are able to balance the various methods of education, thereby harmonizing relationships with their grandchildren. In other words, this type of grandmothers remains flexible, it allows children to be different, to train and try themselves in different roles.
And what is your grandmother?
